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一位智慧老人谈人生:名著《相约星期二》读后感

朗播网 2021-02-12 18:20:05

相约星期二读后感

我们鲜少谈人生,或许是人们认为“人生”这个话题范围实在是太大,无法对其有一个准确的定义。但是,我们偏偏有时候又渴望听到真正的智者谈谈人生这个词。余秋雨在《相约星期二》中文版的序中认为,最有资格谈论人生的就是老人,于是我们等待着期待着有那么一位智慧老人的出现,最终,作者 Mitch 的老师 Morrie 教授出现在我们面前。



在毕业十六年之后,Mitch 厌倦了他所选择的生活。在他看作是自己人生榜样的舅舅因病去世后,他放弃了去做一个音乐家的梦想,转而去做了一名体育记者。


Mitch 几乎把生活的全部都投入到了全新的事业中,去追求事业上的成功,没有精力去关心他的妻子,也没有精力去思考 Morrie 教授曾教给他的“成为一个人”以及“关心他人”,因为他不想像他舅舅那样做着一份自己不喜欢的工作并在痛苦中逝去,他希望在他重病和死去之前,用尽每一刻去得到自己想要的成就,但恰恰就在忙碌中迷失了自我。


幸运的是,他在电视上偶然看到了采访 Morrie 教授的节目得知教授患上了 ALS (肌萎缩侧索硬化,也叫运动神经元病),于是,在与教授联系断开十六年之后,Mitch 回到了教授的身边。


在重逢之后,两人约定每个星期二上一次课。此时的课堂,没有分数,但是每周都会有口头测试,需要你准备好答题和出题。课堂中还有一些体力上的任务,比如时不时的要把教授的头在枕头上挪动挪动将其放到枕头合适的位置上,或者把他的眼镜架在他的鼻梁上。同时,如果跟他吻别,那么可以拿到额外的学分。此外,课程不要求阅读书目,但是有许多话题需要谈论,包括爱、工作、社会、衰老、宽容以及死亡。最后一堂课非常简短,只有几句话。没有期末考试,毕业典礼由葬礼取代。


书中有十四个星期二,每一个星期二的话题都不一样,包括谈论世界、自怜、遗憾、死亡、家庭、感情、对衰老的恐惧、金钱、爱的永恒、婚姻、我们的文化、原谅、完美的一天以及道别。




关于价值观


“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”


关于自信


“Accept who you are; and revel in it.”


关于死亡


“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”

“The truth is, once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”


关于信任


“You see, you closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too--even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”



关于情感


“If you hold back on the emotions--if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them--you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely.”


相约星期二读后感

关于爱


“Life is a series of pulls back and forth... A tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. Most of us live somewhere in the middle. A wrestling match...Which side win? Love wins. Love always wins” .


“there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don't respect the other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to compromise, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can't talk openly about what goes on between you, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of values in life, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.' ”


关于文化


“Well, for one thing, the culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We're teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work, don't buy it. Create your own. Most people can't do it.”


关于地位


“if you're trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down on you anyhow. And if you're trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.”


关于家庭


“This is part of what a family is about, not just love. It's knowing that your family will be there watching out for you. Nothing else will give you that. Not money. Not fame. Not work.”



这本书不像小说那样有一个从始至终的剧情,所以需要亲自阅读体会,才能够更深地去理解上面地话,并且值得反复去看。最后,作者在后序中写到


“Have you ever really had a teacher? One who saw you as a raw but precious thing, a jewel that, with wisdom, could be polished to a proud shine? If you are lucky enough to find your way to such teachers, you will always find your way back. Sometimes it is only in your head. Sometimes it is right alongside their beds”.


相约星期二读后感

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